3 Ways to build confidence | Confidence & Self Love

Confidence is a lifelong journey that seems harder to maintain the older you get. Don’t get bogged down in the details; simply appreciate them. That means building a confidence that is authentic, long lasting and realistic. Let’s talk a realistic game plan for a better you.


  1. Daily affirmation that don’t involve fluff or surface.

I love a good affirmation. Notice I said good. My love language is admittedly acts of service, so my journey to loving affirmations has been a long one. But I do know that if you . You’ve spent long enough telling yourself things that break you down and make you question your fab. Invest in a good affirmation. A good affirmation will validate you while pushing you to accept something just outside your comfort zone. You know I couldn’t leave you hanging right? Here are some of my favorites:

  • I believe in my talents and skills to make things better wherever I go.

  • I forgive myself and release my past.

  • I embrace fear and self-doubt, not letting anything stop me from what I want.

2. Setting up self values that are less beauty based and more merit based

You are more than the physical beauty you can exude. Basing your value on who you are and what you do is something that can be validated everyday. Being productive, supportive and creative are goals you can live up to everyday whether you’re in pjs and toothpaste stains or in a gown. Whether you’re sick or not. You can be you even if you only have 50% that day. You can still give 100% of that 50% and thrive while celebrating you.

3. Give yourself more credit and less contingencies

Full time adulting is hard. That’s why I’m only adulting part time.lol. No seriously, with all the responsibilities you have to keep up with, failing is inevitable. Something will fall short or through, but it’s not your fault. It’s just the nature of life. Celebrate getting it done or at least acknowledging that something didn’t turn out. Still celebrate the lesson of failure. Try celebrating less what you win and more of what you can learn and implement. There has never been a single big success earned with out paying the cost of failure first. Give yourself the grace of getting there.


If you haven’t noticed, my version of confidence is all about innerwork and outer results. Celebrate you in these new ways and start the healthy journey to self love on your terms. Which way best speaks to your confidence journey? Let me know in the comments below.

CIAO FOR NOW

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