In my conversations with clients, I have noticed a unfortunate trend. In an effort to be curvaceous, stylish, or anything akin to feminine, the preference is for something tight and discreet. Not because It's the actual preference. It's because it's the celebrated preference. You know the type. The pin-up look. The Instagram model look. The perfect chiseled curves even in plus-size bodies. I call the plus-size version the safe fat version. Tight, fitted clothes to the silhouette to show how womanly you can be. There's nothing wrong with this being your preference because it fits your aesthetic. There is a huge problem with it being your preference because you want to maintain with something you don't identify with. But you fear missing out on it. So why not lead the charge for embracing looser clothing boldy? Then came this dress.
This dress comes in a boxy cut. For most women it’s intimidating because it instantly implies that the shape of the wearer will be boxy as well. But I can't see this as a problem. Many focus on being shapely almost to the point of obsession. I've had to come to terms with it myself, even while buying this dress. I wanted to get it taken in and then I would have taken a picture of it. I was even going to create a post about getting things tailored with a before-and-after. While I still believe tailoring is necessary, some pieces aren’t necessary.
I had to check myself. How can I preach adaptability, accepting one's body, and all things style if I can't follow my own rules? I had to check the source of these red flags. Me. What I found was that I was gripping with a change in my body again. And this time it didn't feel as comfortable as it had in the past. My body is changing in ways that, as I get older, I don't quite understand. And we all know what happens when we don't understand. We flare up instantly dislike it. It's human nature. The fear of the unknown. But in this winging it / experimental phase of My Life & Style Journey, I'm going to do something different;embrace it.
So I got this dress and about four more pieces like it. Not tailoring it but knowing that it will still fit my body be my personal style preference and still look lovely. Embrace looseness and wear it boldy. What’s the worst that can happen ? You may like it.